How to Know If Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend Is Cheating
In today’s topic, I want to talk about how to know if your boyfriend or girlfriend is cheating. I know there are several opinions out there. People have talked about how to know whether he or she—or your partner, rather—is cheating or not.
So in today’s content, we are talking about the things you need to find out, the things you need to know if your partner—your boyfriend or your girlfriend—is actually cheating.
Before I proceed, I would like you to understand this: cheating is a choice. Cheating is by choice. Every individual that decides to cheat chooses to do so. That’s what I’ll state from the very beginning.
Now let’s dive into what we need to know.
1. Complaining
The first sign is when your partner starts complaining. Even when you’re trying to do your best, even when you’re doing things to please them, they’ll still find something to complain about—again and again—always irritated.
And in that line, he or she begins to compare you with others.
That’s a sign the person is actually seeing someone else. And in those complaints, they might say things like:
- “Why can’t you do this?”
- “Why can’t you be more like that person?”
- “Why are you always like this?”
Once that comparison starts creeping in, it’s an indicator that the person is cheating.
2. Excuses
Now, before I dive into this point—remember, we just talked about constant complaining and comparison. That also links to this one: excuses.
You’ll start to notice your partner giving excuses—constant ones. Think back to when you just met. The emotions were real, the energy was mutual. But now, you notice a shift. The person starts giving you excuses, even excuses that don’t make sense.
They begin to ignore you. Conversations that used to last hours now only last minutes. Maybe before you used to talk four times a week—now it’s just once or twice. That’s a red flag.
The person starts saying things like:
- “I’m busy.”
- “I have a lot going on.”
But let’s be honest—no matter how busy someone is, if they truly love you, they’ll make time for you. When someone loves you, they’ll find a way to stay connected.
So when communication starts reducing, when excuses keep piling up, it’s a sign that something else—or someone else—is taking their attention.
Mind you, some people can still give you attention while giving it to others too. It’s rare, but it happens. Still, most of the time, when excuses become a pattern, it’s either they’re no longer interested in you—or they’re actually cheating.
3. No Transparency
Now, let’s talk about transparency—or the lack of it.
If you want to know whether someone is cheating, one of the biggest signs is that they stop being open with you. You’ll notice they start hiding things—things you both used to talk about freely.
Before, you shared emotions, dreams, struggles, goals. But now, they’re becoming secretive. They get insecure. They start hiding their phone, protecting their chats, avoiding deep conversations.
Someone who used to open up now hides everything. That’s a sign they’re doing something behind your back.
That’s why you need to observe. Don’t just wake up and say someone is cheating. Watch how they were before and how they are now. Compare the past and the present. Are they still moving in line with the relationship, or are they drifting?
Some people hide their identity and intentions just so you don’t find out what they’re really doing.
Someone who truly loves you will be transparent. That’s how trust is built, that’s how trust grows. And where there is trust, there is unity and love.
But once they start hiding things, doubt sets in. And when doubt sets in, the relationship starts to crack.
So if your partner is keeping secrets, hiding things they once shared—it’s a strong sign that they’re pulling away. Most times, they’re hiding something… or someone. It’s a sign that the person is cheating.
4. Less Concern and Constant Dismissal
Lastly, let’s talk about one that most of us are familiar with: less concern and being dismissed or “posted.”
At this point, the person no longer considers you. They don’t take you seriously. Even when you’re at your lowest, trying to reach out, trying to communicate, they brush you off with something like:
- “We’ll talk about it later.”
But you never actually talk about it.
They just keep postponing things. They keep pushing you away emotionally—anything to avoid real connection. And it’s intentional.
It’s a sign that the person is either cheating or simply no longer interested in the relationship. You no longer feel important. You’re no longer a priority.
A lot of things are taking their attention—and you’re not one of them anymore.
Final Thoughts
So, these are the signs I’ve mentioned:
- Constant complaining and comparison
- Excuses and emotional distance
- Lack of transparency and secretive behavior
- Less concern and pushing you away emotionally
These are strong signs that your partner may be cheating—or at least emotionally checked out.
Don’t ignore the signs. Cheating doesn’t always start with the body. It starts with emotional disconnection, secrecy, and neglect.
Pay attention. Trust your instincts. And remember—you deserve someone who chooses you, fully and faithfully.
